How Well Do You Really KNOW YOURSELF?

Knowing yourself is fundamental and basic to being truly happy and fulfilled. 

When you are at the mercy of life, being pulled by external values, needs, wants, and expectations, it is easy to become resigned to this just how my life is. Our busy lifestyles keep us disconnected and distracted, such that it is not uncommon to lose our sense of who we are along with our self-esteem.

So who are you really?

The Truth is you are an individual strand of consciousness created by God in the likeness and image of God. As an individualized strand of consciousness, you are unique and you are powerful in your own life. 

As your expression of consciousness, you are the sum of all of your past experiences, your parents’ emotional imprint, your unique desires & values, your programming, your core limiting beliefs, your purpose, and your body.

These gifts combined are “who” you are.  How you use them or choose not to is what you do. 

We all go through times in our lives when we are more in tune with our true nature than others. 

There are many ways we get out of alignment with our authentic selves. We can run up against a core limiting belief from our childhood. Some of these beliefs include:

• • There is something wrong with who I am.
  • There is something wrong with what I’ve done.
  • I am not enough. I cannot do enough.
  • I am not worthy.
  • I am not lovable.

Just because these beliefs are there doesn’t mean we are stuck with them forever.  They were formed when we were 2 – 8 years old when we had no filters on what our brains took in. We also had no context or wisdom on how to deal with situations and circumstances we found ourselves in. What we did to keep ourselves safe and loved is to compensate for what we thought was missing. Even when we become responsible adults, if we haven’t recognized the patterns, these compensating patterns will still be running our lives.

The good news is, according to Dr. Joe Dispenza, “Each time you make a new choice that is in alignment with your future, you are priming your brain to install the neurological hardware to actually think, act, and feel like the person you want to be in your future. If you keep firing and wiring those networks in your brain, the hardware eventually becomes the software program and making choices that are in alignment with your future becomes more automatic…—this behavior becomes the habit of the new self. This is how we create new habits of thought and behavior.”

Creating new beliefs, new thoughts, and new “go to” behaviors can be done in a relatively short amount of time, once the limiting beliefs are identified.

When you suppress your desires, live outside of your highest priorities, and don’t realize your purpose, you experience anger, blame, resentment, depression, anxiety, and criticism. 

Dr. John Demartini says, “if they are not aware of their own values — and particularly if they believe they should follow the values of another — they will likely experience frustration and other self-depreciating emotions when they expect themselves to live outside their true highest values or even attempt to do so.” When you don’t know yourself, you will sacrifice your SELF for the comfort and convenience of others.

Our familiar programming from childhood can tell us what we “should” be doing. Our sense of worthiness can allow us or not to recognize and honor our own desires.   

We may even think a challenge in our life has thrown us off course. The challenges we face are actually there for us to grow and evolve, and get back on course. 

NOTHING HAPPENS TO YOU, IT HAPPENS FOR YOU.

The more you know yourself, the more awareness you have to make choices to live within your zone of genius, your gifts.  This is where meaning and purpose in life are to be found.

Ten Signs you don’t know yourself:

1. You have a general unhappiness or lack of fulfillment in your life. There is a sadness or irritability underlying how you show up. You feel like you are just going through the motions.
2. You distract yourself by shopping when you don’t need anything, eating when you need or want something else, overcommitting yourself, allow yourself to get caught up in other people’s drama, or getting overly involved in other people’s lives.
3. You have chronic health challenges, fatigue, depression, anxiety, resentment, boredom, anger, blaming, or complaining in your life.
4. You don’t have what you want in your life.
5. You generally feel bad about yourself. Your feelings are easily hurt.
6. You experience mental and emotional exhaustion and clutter in your life. You feel like life is happening to you.
7. You have difficulty making decisions. You will go along to get along.
8. You just want to be included, accepted.
9. You compare yourself to others and internally criticize yourself for not measuring up.
10. You don’t ask for help or support because you don’t know exactly what to ask for or you don’t believe you will get it.

Knowing yourself is key to your true happiness and fulfillment.

One thing all living beings on the planet are here for is more life. God breathes life through us.   

Each challenge we face, whether it is a health challenge, a betrayal, a loss, each challenges is for us to grow, to become more.

Recommended Books and Programs:

KNOW YOURSELF – 12 week 1 on 1 coaching program with Susan Kennedy. To learn more about your core limiting beliefs, finding and living your life with purpose, living a life you LOVE, click here.