7 Secrets to Manifesting Perfect Relationships Blog Series – Secret #7

There is one simple question I’d like for you to contemplate – who do you live for?

Quite a broad question, I know. Let me add a bit more context by adding these questions: who or what does your life center around? Are you a parent that pours everything into your family? Are you a dutiful son/daughter who always puts your parent(s) first? Do you often put the needs of your friends before your own? Do you play small at work so you don’t “rock the boat” with your coworkers and boss?

Now ask yourself, “Why do I do this?” In our previous blog, we talked about living from your values and how that leads you to authentic living.

Your “why?” — your intention behind what you do — makes all the difference between living from your values and living in obligation to something/someone outside of yourself.

Which brings us to my next relationship insight ——

Relationship Secret #7 – When you determine your purpose and values, you set yourself free from others.

It sounds simple enough, right? But you really have to do the work to make that happen. When you do determine your purpose, figure out what you really value and live from that mindset in everything you do, you’ll have the freedom to no longer care what others think. That is very key.

Don Miguel Ruiz outlined simple principles to live by in The Four Agreements (which I’ve paraphrased below) that can help you achieve this freedom:

  • Be impeccable with your word – This is difficult to do until you figure out your values and purpose. Once you do, you can align your words and actions with your purpose.
  • Never make assumptions – You never know what the other person is going to think. So just live from your values and be true to who you are. The other people shouldn’t determine that for you.
  • Always do your best – Self-loving is about being the best person that you can be.
  • Never take anything personally – The only time you take things personally is when you’re not authentic, not true to your values and/or your purpose.

If you try to change to meet someone else’s idea of who/what you should be, one of the main questions is: what are you going to change into?

When you feel you have to change, you’re not being true to who you are. You lose yourself. This is when things like depression, anxiety and addiction could come into play, because we don’t know where else to turn.

When you live authentically, when you live from your values and live with a purpose, your whole world opens up.

Don’t get me wrong, there will most likely be others – even family and friends – who will judge you, criticize you or expect you to act and live a certain way that’s comfortable for them. But they aren’t the ones living your life. You are. You have the power to determine how you live and who you live for.

Focusing on your values, your purpose, sets you free from subordinating yourself to others wills and ideals. That is living authentically. And that is self-love.

Learn more about self-love, the power within you and creating the life you deserve every Sunday at 10:30 at Agape. Click here for more details.


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Distress or Chronic Stress

Distress or chronic stress is uncontrollable, prolonged, or overwhelming stress. Once stress becomes distress, the body manages to survive though not always to thrive. For example, when faced with periods of chronic stress, the body’s immune system function is lowered, and the digestive, excretory, and reproductive systems no longer function the way they should. In a state of distress, the cells of the immune system (and other body systems) are unable to respond normally and produce levels of inflammation which increase the risk of further health issues.


Homeostasis refers to your body’s ability to regulate itself and maintain a comparatively stable internal environment despite external and internal conditions and events.

Your body is designed to be in a state of homeostasis, where all the systems within are functioning optimally.


Stressor is anything that is perceived by the body as challenging, threatening or demanding.

Health Story

In the context of My Wellbeing Compass, your “Health Story” represents the combination of your dis-eases, conditions, symptoms and the history that binds them together. It is multi-layered and multi-dimensional. Unearthing and resolving the root causes at the core of your Health Story is the only way to truly rewrite this Story.

Natural Self-repair Mechanisms

The body is made up of intelligent, living cells that are dynamically connected. They communicate and just know what to do and when to do it in any given situation. They grow, replicate, repair, and age. Every 90 days, the body has a new bloodstream; every year, it manufactures billions of new cells; colon cells refresh every 4 days; the skin is entirely regenerated every 2-3 weeks; white blood cells regenerate in about 1 year; the liver renews itself at least once every 2 years; and the skeleton replaces its cells entirely every 10 years.

You are an incredibly complex, interactive, and dynamic living organism that is well-equipped with self-repair mechanisms that can fight infections, eliminate toxins, fix damaged DNA, destroy cancer cells, and even slow down aging.

This natural self-healing ability (also referred to as cellular intelligence or body’s innate intelligence) explains spontaneous remissions from seemingly “incurable” diseases.


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