When I was growing up, my mom and dad often times worked multiple jobs to make sure our family had the things we needed. But that also meant they weren’t there for the little things, like sports and other extracurricular activities. Sure, they weren’t around as much as I would’ve liked, but I knew they loved me. They also gave me insight into my value of being a more-present father when I had my family.
As my sons grew up and my relationship with them changed and evolved, I realized that what my parents did wasn’t good or bad. I can’t categorize it because I realized that at that time, in those moments, they were doing the best that they could do. That’s what matters. And that’s all that should matter for you in your relationships.
Relationship Secret #4 – Even If You’ve Done Something You Aren’t Proud Of, It Was Probably The Best You Could Do At That Time
As you grow in your awareness, you’ll realize there are things you could’ve done differently, maybe even what you would consider “better.” I admit that if I was in the place of awareness and self-love I’m in now when I had my sons, I would’ve been a better father. But at that time, I knew that I was doing what I needed to be the best father possible.
Mistakes and missteps are just the steps along your journey to self-awareness and self-love.
Do not, I repeat, DO NOT beat yourself up over mistakes you make in any relationship. I’ve written before about these portrayals of “perfect relationships” we see in movies and TV shows. It’s all about perspective. When you eliminate good and bad from the equation, take a step back and look at your journey through this life, you’ll see for yourself that there is growth in everything you do.
When you stop growing and stop living through the values that define your life, the quality of your relationships will inevitably suffer.
But if you can come from a place of awareness and self-love, you can bring that energy to any relationship and see if blossom and thrive as you continue your life’s journey.
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